I found a great article that provides some valuable information: http://redtape.msnbc.com/2010/09/it-started-out-as-a-routine-case-of-credit-card-fraud-dr-gemma-meadows-an-optometrist-in-virginia-got-a-call-from-bank-o.html
The key advice is to follow these steps:
Anyone else who finds themselves being used as part of a credit card fraud operation.
*Insist the police department get a subpoena for the email accounts involved, and pull all the records.
*Every time it happened, I would send a letter to the email addresses saying, “Stop using my information,” and I would copy the police department I am working with. Sometimes that scares off the suspect
* Call the local U.S. Postal Inspector’s office and see if you can get anyone to care there. The postal service is more likely to investigate widespread mail fraud than local police.
* File a complaint with the Internet Crime Complaint Center at www.ic3.gov
I think this will be great information for people who have had their email account hacked into the past few months.
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
Quotes of the day
If you don't like something change it; if you can't change it, change the way you think about it. ~Mary Engelbreit
Feelings of worth can flourish only in an atmosphere where individual differences are appreciated, mistakes are tolerated, communication is open, and rules are flexible - the kind of atmosphere that is found in a nurturing family.
- Virginia Satir
- Virginia Satir
The bond that links your true family is not one of blood, but of respect and joy in each other's life.
- Richard Bach
- Richard Bach
You can never be happy at the expense of the happiness of others.
- Chinese Proverb
- Chinese Proverb
The foolish man seeks happiness in the distance, the wise grows it under his feet.
- James Oppenheim
- James Oppenheim
Friday, September 10, 2010
Wanting A Career
Are you left hurt in the recession or just want to be in a career. I found the five steps to Career Planning Cycle by www.californiacareers.info
1) Learn about yourself
2) Investigate the world of work
3) Use what you have learned
4) Test the waters
5) Find and Get a Job
This is a great path to follow and to constantly review. I know it gets frustrating when you don't get the job you want. Learn from your interview experiences. Think about the questions, if possible ask for their professional opinion, feedback, and remember to never stop believing in yourself. I truly believe when one door shuts another will open. If times are tough try a temp agency, you get your foot in the door and gain more experience. Now if you haven't landed your dream job, continue to educate yourself, ask to learn more at your current job, and then once you are ready it will be time for your career.
It can feel frustrating when you don't feel settled, but it will happen, it just won't be when you want it to. Once it does you will feel complete and rewarded for all your hard work!
Patience is the companion of wisdom. - St. Augustine
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life. - Chinese Proverb
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. - Winston Churchill
Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally. -David Frost
The last one touches my soul because that is what I seek,something I love and believe in.
1) Learn about yourself
2) Investigate the world of work
3) Use what you have learned
4) Test the waters
5) Find and Get a Job
This is a great path to follow and to constantly review. I know it gets frustrating when you don't get the job you want. Learn from your interview experiences. Think about the questions, if possible ask for their professional opinion, feedback, and remember to never stop believing in yourself. I truly believe when one door shuts another will open. If times are tough try a temp agency, you get your foot in the door and gain more experience. Now if you haven't landed your dream job, continue to educate yourself, ask to learn more at your current job, and then once you are ready it will be time for your career.
It can feel frustrating when you don't feel settled, but it will happen, it just won't be when you want it to. Once it does you will feel complete and rewarded for all your hard work!
Patience is the companion of wisdom. - St. Augustine
One moment of patience may ward off great disaster. One moment of impatience may ruin a whole life. - Chinese Proverb
Success consists of going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm. - Winston Churchill
Don't aim for success if you want it; just do what you love and believe in, and it will come naturally. -David Frost
The last one touches my soul because that is what I seek,something I love and believe in.
Thursday, September 9, 2010
Facing the Past for a Brighter Future
I have been through so much you could write a bunch of mini series on lifetime. One of the hardest things I did last year was to face my past, re-live tragic events, accept and close those chapters in my life. It was something that needed to be done whether I liked it or not.
You know the saying "sometimes in order to get ahead you must take two steps back" that is a very true statement. We must face our past in order to understand what choices we made, what have we learned, and how to never make the same mistake again. I will share my story because it is something that happens to many woman surprisingly. Right before I got into a bad relationship, I was sexually assaulted and left for dead one evening during a night out. I won't go into details because their is no need to, you get my point. Last year the man was caught because he had kidnapped a woman, luckily she didn't get assaulted, but he got 40 to life in prison. The prosecutors were trying to take my case to trail, but it was hell to get there. I felt violated all over again and they would have got my ex involved, because of the domestic violence. Doesn't seem right the defendant has more rights than the prosecutor right? well they do! If I would have brought it to trail he would have got the max of 6 years if the jury found him guilty with sexual assault on his record. I had to make many hard decisions and decided to settle without the sexual assault, only and only, because he was already serving 40 to life on another sentence. It wasn't worth putting everyone and myself through for a 6 year sentence on the assault or a total of 8 years with other charges.
My point of telling you story is because it was a tragic event in my life that could have easily controlled me. I chose to be strong, pick up the pieces, and TAKE MY LIFE BACK!!!!
It takes time to heal old wounds, but it can be done.
I told you my life was like a lifetime movie. I have made some poor choices, but I refuse to make anymore. That is what is important. Never feel embarrassed, because no one is perfect and should never be judged on their inperfections. It is easy to look from the outside in, but you truly don't know until you are inside the situation what other factors are clouding their judgement. The only one who can get out of the situations are the people themselves.
By facing my past I learned to accept it and move on. I don't cry about it anymore or have flashbacks. I feel free because it isn't a secret anymore, I don't feel dead inside, I feel alive. That is what matters. Taking your past and making it a positive. Have support to get you through it. Feel free to express yourself on my blog, share stories, input that helps others, and feedback. I cherish every idea and want a place where people have support to get through each day and have motivation to achieve their goals.
Good luck and good night
You know the saying "sometimes in order to get ahead you must take two steps back" that is a very true statement. We must face our past in order to understand what choices we made, what have we learned, and how to never make the same mistake again. I will share my story because it is something that happens to many woman surprisingly. Right before I got into a bad relationship, I was sexually assaulted and left for dead one evening during a night out. I won't go into details because their is no need to, you get my point. Last year the man was caught because he had kidnapped a woman, luckily she didn't get assaulted, but he got 40 to life in prison. The prosecutors were trying to take my case to trail, but it was hell to get there. I felt violated all over again and they would have got my ex involved, because of the domestic violence. Doesn't seem right the defendant has more rights than the prosecutor right? well they do! If I would have brought it to trail he would have got the max of 6 years if the jury found him guilty with sexual assault on his record. I had to make many hard decisions and decided to settle without the sexual assault, only and only, because he was already serving 40 to life on another sentence. It wasn't worth putting everyone and myself through for a 6 year sentence on the assault or a total of 8 years with other charges.
My point of telling you story is because it was a tragic event in my life that could have easily controlled me. I chose to be strong, pick up the pieces, and TAKE MY LIFE BACK!!!!
It takes time to heal old wounds, but it can be done.
I told you my life was like a lifetime movie. I have made some poor choices, but I refuse to make anymore. That is what is important. Never feel embarrassed, because no one is perfect and should never be judged on their inperfections. It is easy to look from the outside in, but you truly don't know until you are inside the situation what other factors are clouding their judgement. The only one who can get out of the situations are the people themselves.
By facing my past I learned to accept it and move on. I don't cry about it anymore or have flashbacks. I feel free because it isn't a secret anymore, I don't feel dead inside, I feel alive. That is what matters. Taking your past and making it a positive. Have support to get you through it. Feel free to express yourself on my blog, share stories, input that helps others, and feedback. I cherish every idea and want a place where people have support to get through each day and have motivation to achieve their goals.
Good luck and good night
Effective Team
Last night when our class was discussing the chain of an Effective team it reminded me of a Marriage or Relationship. The chain has the following characteristics:
Clear Goals
Relevant Skills
Mutual Trust
Unified Commitment
Good Communication
Negotiating Skills
Appropriate Leadership
Internal Support
External Support
Reviewing this made me think of why relationships fail. One of these characteristics are not being met, some are easy to fix and others may not be as easy, but it takes all parties to comply with each one in order for it to work. Growing up I have always wished I could be in a relationship like my parents. They are truly each others best friend and satisfy each of these characteristics. I thank my parents for setting a great example of a healthy relationship and I strive to find one equally as good. Looking at this list think about your own relationship and find out if anything is missing, meet with your partner and discuss. In order to resolve the problem both parties must want to find a solution. I know how it feels to be in a one sided relationship, it is frustrating and gets no where fast when your the only one trying.
Clear Goals
Relevant Skills
Mutual Trust
Unified Commitment
Good Communication
Negotiating Skills
Appropriate Leadership
Internal Support
External Support
Reviewing this made me think of why relationships fail. One of these characteristics are not being met, some are easy to fix and others may not be as easy, but it takes all parties to comply with each one in order for it to work. Growing up I have always wished I could be in a relationship like my parents. They are truly each others best friend and satisfy each of these characteristics. I thank my parents for setting a great example of a healthy relationship and I strive to find one equally as good. Looking at this list think about your own relationship and find out if anything is missing, meet with your partner and discuss. In order to resolve the problem both parties must want to find a solution. I know how it feels to be in a one sided relationship, it is frustrating and gets no where fast when your the only one trying.
Quotes
When you feel like giving up, remember why you held on for so long in first place-Unknown Author
One has to remember that every failure can be a stepping stone to something better- Col. Harland Sanders
One has to remember that every failure can be a stepping stone to something better- Col. Harland Sanders
Wednesday, September 8, 2010
Better ourselves
I was in class today and came to a realization that others fight the same challenges that I have overcome these past years. I once was in an abusive relationship, both emotionally and physically, had two kids, and now a single mom. I started going to a community college after my son was born, this was in 2006. I did terrible my first year. I was stressed out being put down all the time, had a miscarriage, and having a hard time balancing life. My first year of college I was given academic warnings. By the end of that year I was tired of excuses, began to communicate with professors, and took charge of one part of my life. In 2008 I got out of the bad relationship and took my life back in all aspects. I took the domestic violence class for victims. I started to understand the mentality of victims and that you can not control others, only yourself. I spent 3 years trying to help someone who fought me the whole way and never wanted to change, because they felt they didn't have a problem. I allowed to be treated with less respect than I deserved.Once a woman or man believes in themselves they are unstoppable! You can accomplish anything. Take it from my experience, I am raising 2 kids, working on my Bachelors degree, and working.
The important thing is never giving up, have a support system and to keep an eye on the future. Once you have accomplished your goal you will feel rewarded in many ways. My motivation are my kids and have truly been a blessing. They are my constant reminder of achieving a better life.
Analyze
Recognize
Strategize
Are the three factors that can help direct you in understanding yourself and situation you are in.
If you don't like the way life is going than change it. Know that there are ways out of a situation or to better your life. Never think you don't have a choice or only two options, because that is untrue. We have many options and support, we just have to look.
Good night and I hope you ponder what I have said.
The important thing is never giving up, have a support system and to keep an eye on the future. Once you have accomplished your goal you will feel rewarded in many ways. My motivation are my kids and have truly been a blessing. They are my constant reminder of achieving a better life.
Analyze
Recognize
Strategize
Are the three factors that can help direct you in understanding yourself and situation you are in.
If you don't like the way life is going than change it. Know that there are ways out of a situation or to better your life. Never think you don't have a choice or only two options, because that is untrue. We have many options and support, we just have to look.
Good night and I hope you ponder what I have said.
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